Psychodynamic Couples Therapy
For couples who keep ending up in the same place
Something shaped between you that neither of you can see from inside.
Psychodynamic therapy works with the deeper layer, not just the surface.
Six therapists. One shared training.
Where we train
Couples in Mind is a group of six qualified psychodynamic practitioners currently completing advanced specialist training in couples psychotherapy at Tavistock Relationships, accredited by the British Psychoanalytic Council (BPC).
That training matters because it distinguishes what we do from shorter courses in couples counselling. It is a rigorous, clinically supervised programme grounded in psychoanalytic thinking about how two people construct, and get trapped in, a shared unconscious life.
What the work actually does
Psychodynamic work looks at what is happening beneath the surface: the patterns you repeat without realising, the feelings one of you carries for the other, the ways your earliest relationships shaped what you expect from this one.
It is slow, often uncomfortable work, and it offers no quick fixes. But it reaches what is actually driving the difficulty between you, not just the symptoms.
What couples bring
Where couples usually begin
- Affairs
- An affair, or the aftermath of one
- Sex
- The sex has stopped, or feels impossible to talk about
- Change
- Something has shifted and you cannot find each other
- Arguments
- The same argument, week after week
- Distance
- You are living like flatmates
- Leaving
- One of you is thinking about leaving
These are starting points, not the whole picture. What brings you here may not have words yet.
Some people arrive certain they do not need therapy, they just need to talk better. That is a fair thing to think, and most couples have already tried it. The trouble is that the same conversation keeps collapsing in the same place, and no amount of careful phrasing reaches what is underneath.
This work is not about deciding who is at fault. It is about understanding why the two of you keep ending up here.
The same arguments, or the same careful silences, the growing sense that you are stuck somewhere neither of you chose.
You have probably been living with this for longer than you want to admit.
You don’t need to have it figured out before you contact us
Most couples who contact us are unsure whether therapy is the right step. That uncertainty is a reasonable place to start, not a reason to wait.